Can masturbation be part of a good sex life?

Do you love your partner very much? But have you felt the need for a self-pleasure? Does it make you feel guilty? Well, if that’s the case, don’t be hyper at all! There’s really nothing wrong with masturbating. Sometimes, we need a little space to explore our body and sometimes it can be a self-pleasure.

“We are in an era where we are constantly talking about self – pleasure, self-love, self – worth etc. So can we do all this only when no one else is able to give us happiness? Not! We are free to take care of our own needs and wants, whether someone takes care of them or not.

She adds, “Similarly, self-pleasure has nothing to do with whether you are sexually satisfied with your partner or not. It is simply a way of identifying yourself and understanding your needs. Masturbating is not a sign of an unsatisfactory sex life.”

Why is Self-Pleasure Viewed Negatively?
If you’re in a relationship, it doesn’t mean you can’t take care of your orgasms.

Delhi-based psychologist Shivika Sahai says – “Actually, to an extent, self-pleasure helps improve relationships. This is completely normal. Also, there is no need for you to feel guilty for this.

In fact, masturbation has many health benefits as well:

  1. It acts as a mood booster
    Renowned clinical psychologist Dr Bhavna Burmi tells Healthshots: “Masturbation releases dopamine and endorphins, which increase happiness. In addition, dopamine is a neurotransmitter that helps relieve stress and improves mood.
  2. It can relieve vaginal dryness
    We all know that sex can help relieve vaginal dryness, but did you know that masturbation can also help you? So, you know what to do.
  3. You Can Enjoy Orgasms Without Any Risk
    The best part is that you can experience the excitement without worrying about sexually transmitted infections or pregnancy. Isn’t it funny!

Know when masturbation can become a problem?
Everything is fine as long as masturbation doesn’t affect the intimacy between you and your partner. For example, if you only want to indulge in self-pleasure, and don’t want to have sex with your partner, that can be a problem. And if you feel that you feel more pleasure while having solo sex, then you should talk to your partner.

Sahai says – “You can masturbate with your partner using a sex toy. It can really help spice up your sex life. Just keep in mind that you don’t get used to it. Sometimes, masturbating is not a problem.

So ladies, use this as a tool to understand your body better, so that you can have pleasurable sex with your partner!